Interview #2
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bassfingers:
1. Did you ever listen to the boogie compilation I gave you for Christmas, and if so, what were your impressions?
Yes, I did, although I think I only listened to it once all the way through. (Rummaging around for it so I can remember the song titles . . .) I had, of course, heard the Weird Al, ZZ Top, and Kool & the Gang tracks before. The only ones out of the rest that I remember making an impression were the Cab Calloway (always a pleasure) and one other . . . I don't even remember which one the other was, although I seem to remember it was fairly late on the disc. I should probably listen to it again.
2. You can put on ANY social event you want to -- size and cost are no object. How many people do you invite, and what activities do you plan to entertain them? (Think as small as Movie Night on a slow night, or as large as OwlCon or larger...)
ANY social event I want to? (*sound of ex-Belle cracking knuckles*)
I can think of at least three things that I'd really love to do. Given the stipulations above, I'll describe the one I think would be most expensive, since either of the other two might actually come true some day.
I'd rent a plantation house - preferably Waverly Mansion (there's a photo here, halfway down the page), but any of the ones with a proper ballroom would do - and throw a proper banquet and ball. I'd invite about four dozen people (give or take a few) - no children, childcare provided off-site. Masquerade attire would be required - anything from proper black tie and a Mardi Gras mask all the way down to outrageous costumery, but make sure you can sit down and eat in it. Five-course dinner, on proper antique china and silver; I'll do the majority of the cooking, but I'll hire help for finishing and serving. After dinner, the Spouse can run turntable in the ballroom (he gets to make the song list, but I get to make suggestions and veto artists who don't fit the mood), while I settle into the sitting room for salon-style conversation and deep thoughts. Around one in the morning, as the more easily-tired and those who want to pick up their kids begin straggling out, those of us who are left gather back in the ballroom, where everyone who owns an instrument joins in a live jam session, with a mike set up for those of us who care to sing - and we carry on making music or chatting until near-dawn. As a good hostess, of course, I have hors d'oeuvre aplenty to last that long. If anyone ends up, eh, sleeping over, there's also plenty of stuff left over in the (fortunately huge) kitchen for breakfast.
3. What are your reasons for not driving (or learning to drive)? (I don't think it's a topic we've ever discussed before, and I was curious where you're coming from on the matter. No wrong answers here.)
I suck at it. I really hate doing things that I suck at. I think it would be irresponsible of me to continue trying to do it when the highly likely outcome of my badly steering around a ton of metal, glass, and flammable stuff in the proximity of other large hunks of metal, glass, and flammable stuff is someone's injury or death. I don't want the karma of killing someone else, even accidentally, simply because I chose to do something I know I do very badly.
If I were a really bad target shooter, I wouldn't do it, either. Same principle.
4. When we first met, in addition to having a certain number of personalities and or *aspects* (I vaguely recall a cat and a dragon, I believe, among 8 or so others), there were also some old souls who chose to communicate through you when you were in a trance state that your future spouse was able to trigger through a key phrase. Are these things still a part of your life, or, if not, at what point did they cease to be?
The "aspects" I still have; they're personality-facets that are connected to the chakras. They tend to come out in ritual, or in other highly-energetically-charged situations; the "cat" one, in particular, tends to come out a lot at CMA gatherings. Rob enjoyed playing with them a lot, so when I met you, they weren't as well integrated as they are now - but they certainly still exist.
The majority of the "old souls" pretty much stopped contacting me after I discovered the Pagan community in Real Life - I very much got a sort of "our work here is done" sense from them at that point. There was one that kind of looked in on me periodically after that; I haven't heard from him since I actually did my formal self-dedication on Hippie Hill - again, I got a very strong sense that at that point, he'd gotten me to the place he wanted me to be, and his continued presence would have interfered with what he wanted to happen afterwards. I haven't particularly wanted - or needed - to contact them since then; does the idea of a guardian angel for a limited time make any sense? That's sort of how I feel about them now. (Interestingly, the key phrase doesn't work any more, either. One of the benefits of working with groups as much as I have in the past - geez! has it been this long? - ten years is that I have a much better handle on autotrancing.)
5. Since it is more or less a given that your spouse choses not to be poly, this question cannot apply directly to him. So then, by way of extension, if you began a relationship with another man, would you feel jealous or threatened by the other women in their poly relationships?
Jealous, probably. I can easily see myself feeling jealous if he spent a great deal more time with her than he did with me *and* she wasn't his primary partner - that is, she and I were both secondaries (or whatever you want to call it) to him, and her relationship with him wasn't any more long-standing than mine, but she got the lion's share of his romantic time. I wouldn't feel jealous just because she (or he - no reason this person has to be het) was there and had a relationship with him, though, and I don't think I'd feel jealous of someone else's primary, since that's a different sort of relationship. I might feel insecure if the other woman were a lot more conventionally attractive than I am, but I process insecurity differently from jealousy.
The only case in which I can imagine feeling threatened is if this person entered into a relationship with my sweetheart after me and then decided that she wanted him all to herself - that is, she wanted him to be monogamous with her. That would hurt. If that's what he decided he wanted, I would work very hard at being okay with it, but it would be extremely painful.
If you want me to interview you--post a comment that simply says, "Interview me." I'll respond with questions for you to take back to your own journal and answer as a post. Of course, they'll be different for each person since this is an interview and not a general survey. At the bottom of your post, after answering the Interviewer's questions, you ask if anyone wants to be interviewed. So it becomes your turn-- in the comments, you ask them any questions you have for them to take back to their journals and answer. And so it becomes the circle.
Who will play? May I interview you? Would you like to interview me?
bassfingers:1. Did you ever listen to the boogie compilation I gave you for Christmas, and if so, what were your impressions?
Yes, I did, although I think I only listened to it once all the way through. (Rummaging around for it so I can remember the song titles . . .) I had, of course, heard the Weird Al, ZZ Top, and Kool & the Gang tracks before. The only ones out of the rest that I remember making an impression were the Cab Calloway (always a pleasure) and one other . . . I don't even remember which one the other was, although I seem to remember it was fairly late on the disc. I should probably listen to it again.
2. You can put on ANY social event you want to -- size and cost are no object. How many people do you invite, and what activities do you plan to entertain them? (Think as small as Movie Night on a slow night, or as large as OwlCon or larger...)
ANY social event I want to? (*sound of ex-Belle cracking knuckles*)
I can think of at least three things that I'd really love to do. Given the stipulations above, I'll describe the one I think would be most expensive, since either of the other two might actually come true some day.
I'd rent a plantation house - preferably Waverly Mansion (there's a photo here, halfway down the page), but any of the ones with a proper ballroom would do - and throw a proper banquet and ball. I'd invite about four dozen people (give or take a few) - no children, childcare provided off-site. Masquerade attire would be required - anything from proper black tie and a Mardi Gras mask all the way down to outrageous costumery, but make sure you can sit down and eat in it. Five-course dinner, on proper antique china and silver; I'll do the majority of the cooking, but I'll hire help for finishing and serving. After dinner, the Spouse can run turntable in the ballroom (he gets to make the song list, but I get to make suggestions and veto artists who don't fit the mood), while I settle into the sitting room for salon-style conversation and deep thoughts. Around one in the morning, as the more easily-tired and those who want to pick up their kids begin straggling out, those of us who are left gather back in the ballroom, where everyone who owns an instrument joins in a live jam session, with a mike set up for those of us who care to sing - and we carry on making music or chatting until near-dawn. As a good hostess, of course, I have hors d'oeuvre aplenty to last that long. If anyone ends up, eh, sleeping over, there's also plenty of stuff left over in the (fortunately huge) kitchen for breakfast.
3. What are your reasons for not driving (or learning to drive)? (I don't think it's a topic we've ever discussed before, and I was curious where you're coming from on the matter. No wrong answers here.)
I suck at it. I really hate doing things that I suck at. I think it would be irresponsible of me to continue trying to do it when the highly likely outcome of my badly steering around a ton of metal, glass, and flammable stuff in the proximity of other large hunks of metal, glass, and flammable stuff is someone's injury or death. I don't want the karma of killing someone else, even accidentally, simply because I chose to do something I know I do very badly.
If I were a really bad target shooter, I wouldn't do it, either. Same principle.
4. When we first met, in addition to having a certain number of personalities and or *aspects* (I vaguely recall a cat and a dragon, I believe, among 8 or so others), there were also some old souls who chose to communicate through you when you were in a trance state that your future spouse was able to trigger through a key phrase. Are these things still a part of your life, or, if not, at what point did they cease to be?
The "aspects" I still have; they're personality-facets that are connected to the chakras. They tend to come out in ritual, or in other highly-energetically-charged situations; the "cat" one, in particular, tends to come out a lot at CMA gatherings. Rob enjoyed playing with them a lot, so when I met you, they weren't as well integrated as they are now - but they certainly still exist.
The majority of the "old souls" pretty much stopped contacting me after I discovered the Pagan community in Real Life - I very much got a sort of "our work here is done" sense from them at that point. There was one that kind of looked in on me periodically after that; I haven't heard from him since I actually did my formal self-dedication on Hippie Hill - again, I got a very strong sense that at that point, he'd gotten me to the place he wanted me to be, and his continued presence would have interfered with what he wanted to happen afterwards. I haven't particularly wanted - or needed - to contact them since then; does the idea of a guardian angel for a limited time make any sense? That's sort of how I feel about them now. (Interestingly, the key phrase doesn't work any more, either. One of the benefits of working with groups as much as I have in the past - geez! has it been this long? - ten years is that I have a much better handle on autotrancing.)
5. Since it is more or less a given that your spouse choses not to be poly, this question cannot apply directly to him. So then, by way of extension, if you began a relationship with another man, would you feel jealous or threatened by the other women in their poly relationships?
Jealous, probably. I can easily see myself feeling jealous if he spent a great deal more time with her than he did with me *and* she wasn't his primary partner - that is, she and I were both secondaries (or whatever you want to call it) to him, and her relationship with him wasn't any more long-standing than mine, but she got the lion's share of his romantic time. I wouldn't feel jealous just because she (or he - no reason this person has to be het) was there and had a relationship with him, though, and I don't think I'd feel jealous of someone else's primary, since that's a different sort of relationship. I might feel insecure if the other woman were a lot more conventionally attractive than I am, but I process insecurity differently from jealousy.
The only case in which I can imagine feeling threatened is if this person entered into a relationship with my sweetheart after me and then decided that she wanted him all to herself - that is, she wanted him to be monogamous with her. That would hurt. If that's what he decided he wanted, I would work very hard at being okay with it, but it would be extremely painful.
If you want me to interview you--post a comment that simply says, "Interview me." I'll respond with questions for you to take back to your own journal and answer as a post. Of course, they'll be different for each person since this is an interview and not a general survey. At the bottom of your post, after answering the Interviewer's questions, you ask if anyone wants to be interviewed. So it becomes your turn-- in the comments, you ask them any questions you have for them to take back to their journals and answer. And so it becomes the circle.
Who will play? May I interview you? Would you like to interview me?
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the true toreadors will now stand and ...
Date: 2003-06-10 11:27 pm (UTC)hmm, maybe if we got several of us together to help rent the hall...
this has possibilities
Re: the true toreadors will now stand and ...
Date: 2003-06-10 11:34 pm (UTC)Using that particular one isn't likely - it's in another state - but I'm sure there are B&B's in rural Texas that would do. Ideally, the venue is haunted, but not by a malicious spirit (Waverly has two resident ghosts). It has to have sufficient parking for everyone, and there has to be available childcare not too far away if we're inviting anyone with small children. Ideally, the grounds are sufficiently isolated that people coming and going at odd hours in strange and skimpy costumes won't attract notice. How would we go about researching such a thing?