Writer's Block: The one that got away
Oct. 10th, 2009 01:54 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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Not as stated, no.
See, I think the idea of "the one" is silly. "There's only one girl in the world for you, and she probably lives in Tahiti." (And can I just point out that Mickey Dolenz singing those lyrics is all kinds if ironic?) Seriously, if that were true and souls were randomly distributed, most of us would have to go to China or India to find our lifemates.
I don't think I'm "half of something" (to skip to the Proclaimers, who also covered the song I just quoted). To the extent that I think anything like a soulmate exists, it would be the other people who share my matron and patron deities, and ours is a union of motive purpose, not of romance.
Now, I should qualify that. I don't actually think we're randomly distributed, and the idea that some of us have karmic links of some sort - that we appear in each others' lives over and over in different roles in different incarnations - is sort of both intuitive and comforting for me, although I admit I don't have a lot of evidence for it. But I don't think it's the same role every time. And I suspect that if you're lovers every single time, that that means you're Doing It Wrong, that there's something you're supposed to be learning from that role that you're failing to learn, so you keep doing it over and over until you get it right.
And I think of it (natch) as not being limited to a pair of people. I mean, that would be selfish and insular, almost solipsistic. I suspect that there are groups of souls that find themselves together over and over again, siblings in one life, lovers in another, co-workers in a third, liege-lord and faithful servants in yet another.
Not as stated, no.
See, I think the idea of "the one" is silly. "There's only one girl in the world for you, and she probably lives in Tahiti." (And can I just point out that Mickey Dolenz singing those lyrics is all kinds if ironic?) Seriously, if that were true and souls were randomly distributed, most of us would have to go to China or India to find our lifemates.
I don't think I'm "half of something" (to skip to the Proclaimers, who also covered the song I just quoted). To the extent that I think anything like a soulmate exists, it would be the other people who share my matron and patron deities, and ours is a union of motive purpose, not of romance.
Now, I should qualify that. I don't actually think we're randomly distributed, and the idea that some of us have karmic links of some sort - that we appear in each others' lives over and over in different roles in different incarnations - is sort of both intuitive and comforting for me, although I admit I don't have a lot of evidence for it. But I don't think it's the same role every time. And I suspect that if you're lovers every single time, that that means you're Doing It Wrong, that there's something you're supposed to be learning from that role that you're failing to learn, so you keep doing it over and over until you get it right.
And I think of it (natch) as not being limited to a pair of people. I mean, that would be selfish and insular, almost solipsistic. I suspect that there are groups of souls that find themselves together over and over again, siblings in one life, lovers in another, co-workers in a third, liege-lord and faithful servants in yet another.
