I recall reading "The Spiral Dance" about 12 years ago now and while I found much in it that was fascinating, the bits you mentioned did not sit well with me at all. The reason being that men are made to feel stupid and clueless and useless enough in modern American culture as it is, and I did not need something like this to rub it in and make those feelings worse. I was and still am under the impression that the Pagan cause was to strive for equality for all, something I have no problem with, and while I am aware that the Dianic/separatist circles are not the norm, it still bothered me to read those parts. As a friend of mine stated once, "The difference between a feminist and a feminazi is that a feminist says 'I don't depend on men,' and a feminazi says 'I don't need men.'" I do believe and understand that there is a difference between those two mindsets and no, I do not lump the two together, which is unfair to women in general, and I mean no disrespect to you by saying these things. I don't down that book at all otherwise.